Life Lessons Learned in My 40’s That I Wish I Could Tell My 20-Year Old Self

Debt Isn’t Normal

Friends > Relationships

Know What You Want


The Overrated Big Wedding

Less Stuff Is Better

Manage Health

Career Patience

There’s No Such Thing As Perfection

Quick Lessons

  • It might hurt, but you should always tell the truth.
  • Not everyone will be as respectful and honorable as you.
  • No more hair gel!
  • Tell your parents you love them as often as possible, one day they’ll be gone.
  • You’re going to be fine!
  • Drink more water.
  • Don’t forget to wear sunscreen every time you leave the house.
  • It’s okay to put yourself first and say no to the things (or people) that drain your energy.
  • Be open and honest about what you want, no one will read your mind.
  • Listen when people show you who they are.
  • You can have a degree and still be stupid.
  • You can’t get back the time you spend worrying.
  • Do what’s right for you, not what’s right on paper.
  • Some people will like you, some people won’t like you. That’s fine, you’re not for everyone and you don’t have to be.
  • Travel.
  • Let yourself make mistakes, it’ll be okay.
  • Be tough.
  • Don’t waste your time on toxic people.
  • It isn’t things that matter, it’s people.
  • Be kind.




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